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Today in five minutes I will be announcing that.....I know you are on the edge of your seats, waiting their wondering what could it be, feeling disappointed that I did not give you enough time to gossip about what it was, and I know all are anticipating the fun that is to come.
And the announcement is......
I AM GOING TO MAKE SOME TOAST THIS MORNING.
I just figured I had to one up Candy, because making toast is about as interesting to me as going to a fake online party.
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Oooh! Can you share your recipe for toast? Will you post pictures? I want to make sure I do it exactly like you!!!!
good one!!
I was just wondering what you put on your toast? Do you butter it and could you share whether you cut the toast before eating? Thanks in advance
That was it? Her "special announcment was another meeze party? That is just silly.
What a wonderful announcement! I made coffee this morning but no toast. :( I'm just not as efficient as you.
Oh, you must post pictures of your toast! And do tell: do you have a favorite brand of butter? What about jelly? It's not sinful to add butter AND jelly to your toast, is it?
Ahhh! I so desperately want to have toast for breakfast, too, but I don't have a good recipe. Please tell me:
Do you use mega-sprouted organic gluten free sugarless whole grain multifiber colon blasting bread?
Do you take the bread out of the plastic storage container before you toast it, or do you leave it on?
Do you slice the bread, or do you toast the whole loaf at once?
When do you take the bread out of the toaster?
What kind of plate do you put it on?
Do you bring the toast to your mouth with your right hand or your left?
How many times do you chew it?
Please answer me, inquiring minds want to know.
Amanda...butter and jelly are for rich people who want to show off. They sit around in IHOP and other gourmet restaurants, buttering and jellying their toast. They might as well be saying, "Hey, look at me!" That sort of prideful behavior is not acceptable. Having said that, I have a copy of Candy's recipe for "Tooty Fruity Lip Smackin' Jamming Jelly" that I wouldn't mind sharing with you, unless of course you are Catholic.
I would like to know why you do not put salmon on your toast--straight out of the can of course. And post a picture!!! I do have to give Candy some credit where credit is due--any more pictures of what she puts on the table, and I won't need Weight Watchers anymore! I am so glad to have found this website; I do have kindred spirits after all!
Mama22, I've got a great canned salmon recipe on my website! :) Please come by, unless you're Catholic.
I was wondering what your thoughts on apron wearing during toast making were. Do you or don't you? I have been considering wearing an apron, but just cannot decide. Hubby said it was my decision as long as I wore a modest apron. Thanks.
I only wear an apron when I exercise. Sweeping--I saw the canned salmon recipe; looks delish! Next time I zip on my black elf boots and go to WalMart I'm getting some salmon and slapping it on the table. Oh, and no, regretably, I'm not Catholic. But I'm thinking of converting, does that count? Oh, wait, Candy can't count can she? Or spell. Or cook......
On a more serious note - could someone explain to me exactly what ITU certification is? Just wondering.
I had to read about "air fornication." If she has written that lately, I guess she probably has deleted it, but I found a cache from a few years ago: http://64.233.167.104/search?q=cache:0l0wyPITDkgJ:genuineprofit.lifewithchrist.org/index.html%3Fstart%3D290+%22air+fornication%22&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=14&gl=us&client=firefox-a
So, it is a few years ago. Take that for what it is.
Synchro, how do you pull up deleted posts like that? There are quite a few doozies I remember that I'd like to pull up for old time sake.
Wayback Machine is a great site for searching for archived web pages that have been otherwise deleted.
kritterc said:
I was wondering what your thoughts on apron wearing during toast making were. Do you or don't you?
Oh, kritterc, if only you were as full of the fruits of the Spirit as Candy is! If you were, you wouldn't need an apron; dirt and crumbs would be magically repelled from your modest garments.
As Candy Herself said,
I don't wear aprons, as I just seem to be neat and clean. I clean with bleach, but I just never seem to get it on my clothes. I bake bread, but I rarely get flour on my dress, and when I do, it's wheat flour, so it brushes right off.
http://myblessedhome.blogspot.com/2008/06/how-i-came-to-be-dresses-only.html
Oh, the irony of Candy's latest post. VTC already has something up about it.
Candy, in her own words:
"Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit is one's attributing the works and power of the Holy Spirit to the devil."
And what does she do in her posts about the Catholic Church? Yup.
Oh, praise God, someone has been prophesizing over Candy again. *eye roll*
You know, I don't doubt that there are people who have the ability for prophesy, but it does seem convenient that they all seek out Candy.
Rudy, I'd love your jelly recipe, but alas, I am nothing but a Catholic Whore. Of course, since I'm doomed to burn in hell anyway, I may as well enjoy my toast with butter AND jelly.
Please tell me when she wrote this, she wasn't talking about herself:
The Bible tells us that a true prophet of God is ALWAYS right, and is saved.
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Jane- I read it as she assumes the stranger that approached her husband is the true prophet. (Of course he is because he obviously said something that they want to hear.)
synchroswmr, I just read through some of her entries on the link you posted. Makes me feel sorry for her. She really was going through a tough time but obviously felt unable to talk about it without putting on the joy joy joy face. I personally think there is a difference to having joy and being happy. You cannot be happy all the time. It's just plain unrealistic. Having inner joy is another matter and not related to being happy clappy all the time.
Just my 2 cents worth
Dora, while cooking breakfast, I was thinking more about what you wrote. If she is not truly joyous all the time (as she generally portrays on her blog), but wants to put on a happy face, fine. Go ahead. I do that, too -- I am in a difficult place in life right now, but don't want people at work to know (since it relates to my work), so I put on a happy face at work.
BUT, I don't have people looking up to me for how to be a model graduate student. I don't have people who want to be like me. I don't have people asking me all the time how I am happy always. When I do talk to younger grad students about the business of grad school, I am honest with them. Some days are better than others. Some weeks I get very little done, some weeks I feel so good about what I am doing I work on Saturday. Some days I get frustrated and want to quit.
I think the thing with Candy is that she isn't honest about it. If she wants to delude herself and pretend all the time, fine, but she might be doing herself harm. And she might be doing harm to all the other people who wonder why they cannot be as happy as she is.
Candy sounds like me in some ways. She keeps busy all the time, as do I. For me, I keep busy all the time because if I don't, depression will crush me. I truly hope that she is not doing the same, because if she is (and I think it is a safe bet that she would not be getting support from extended family, friends and/or a professional), it is a painful and lonely life to live, and I do not wish that on anybody.
It is possible that she truly enjoys her work, but ... it just seems ... strange.
Hmmm... it would appear that my first post got eaten somewhere. It basically said that I agree with Dora about the difference between being happy outside and being joyous inside. And I totally agree with Dora's sentiments.
It is possible that she truly enjoys her work, but ... it just seems ... strange.
Now see, I don't find anything inherrently weird about enjoying her work. I work outside the home now, but I would love nothing more than to be a SAHM and embrace the 50s housewife stereotype.
What I find to be strange, though, is what Dora already described better: there's a big difference between inner joy and and putting on a happy face ALL the time. As she said, you can have plenty of inner joy, but no one is outwardly hapy all the time.
And, again as Dora said, if she wants to slap a smile on her face and deceive herself, that's one thing. My big issue, though, is that she's convincing all her followers that they're bad people/Christians/mothers/wives if they're not able to do the same. Yes, I snap at my DH and my kids sometimes. I lose my temper. I don't make all my own bread, and sometimes my bathroom isn't spotless. Does that make me an over all bad person? An over all unhappy person? A lazy person? No. It just means I'm HUMAN.
It seems entirely unhealthy to me be that "happy" all the time.
Maybe she's a Stepford wife!
OMG, that's the best explanation, yet!
It isn't just that she set an impossible standard creating guild in other women, she then turns around and tries to market to that guilt. How could she sell her "how to be perfect" ebooks if she wasn't perfect?
What's embarrassing is that I actually bought her Homemanagement Binder e-book. (Feel free to flig rotting fruit in my direction.) In my defense, it was before I realized that (a) she hated Catholics (and I am one) and (b) that she was off her rocker and lied at least half the time. I was also throughly disgusted when I realized that she was far from the first to "invent" this.
And, this may come as a shock to you, but I found the whole book to be very poorly written and edited. I am a grammar freak (English major), so I do tend to be critical of this sort of thing, but I'm not talking minor errors. It was/is riddled with poorly constructed sentences, typographical errors, etc... Even if she weren't off her rocker, and even if she hadn't simply rehashed an old idea, I still wouldn't recommend her books, simply because they're so poorly written.
Amanda, I think you said it better than me. I think it is great for people who are SAHMs and truly enjoy it. I guess I think it seems that her attitude is strange -- that she has to put on this face, not that it is really there.
I was not saying that it is strange that she might truly enjoy her job (I hope to be one of them at some point), or that it is strange she might enjoy keeping her home and staying home with her children, to be a SAHM is a noble profession. I think some things about her and her attitude are strange, as if not real, like Dora was saying.
Amanda, I thought about buying the book about binders. Glad to know I saved myself a few dollars. I was thisclose to buying it, but then I read her articles and realized that they were basically rehashing what I had been reading on other webpages.
BTW, I hope nobody thinks I am trying to say negative things about women who stay home with their children. That is absolutely not what I think.
Swimmer, definately don't waste your money on her book. Among other things, it's basically just a compilation of what she's posted on her blog.
If you're interested in that sort of binder, though, I'd recommend the FlyLady. You don't even need to buy her book (though it is good, and I would say go for it); on her webpage, she takes you step-by-step through everything. Plus, it's put together much better!
Am I the only person who doesn't feel guilty because I am not as neat and organized as Candy? I have never once felt badly about myself or compared myself to her as a result of her homemaking posts. I can't imagine why I would. I'm not nearly as organized or tidy with my housework as she is and surely I'd like to be but not to the point of feeling like a failure or like a lesser wife and mother. Why would you? I don't understand that at all. I am secure in myself and I know many women who homeschool "better" and have neater and prettier houses than myself but I don't compare myself to them. My husband married ME, not them - why do you women allow yourselves to feel badly about yourselves because of what another person writes? God made each of you uniquely - each of you have your own gifts - why feel badly about that? Candy can't do that to you - you do that to yourself. I mean no disrespect by these statements but I read it over and over again - about how you enjoyed her blog until it made you feel badly, like a failure somehow. You should not blame that on Candy because she can't make you feel any way. Candy can't make me happy and she can't make me sad and only I can control those things in my life.
I think people feel badly that they bought into her load crap and why they couldn't do the 500 things in a day she CLAIMED to do.
I understand what people are saying but not why they would feel badly about themselves. When I have my full focus on my home I am fully able to do an incredible amount of things in one day - easily everything in my binder and still have time to play. That only happens when my #1 focus is putting my family first - not everything else that eats up my time (like this). I think it is more than reasonable to show how a person can do all those things if they are dedicated to that - but most of us get distracted and don't. Knowing that, when I fail to follow my binder I don't let myself feel like a failure for it. If I still have a load of work left undone on any given day I KNOW why - because I choose to do something else. That is my fault and no one else's. I don't hold myself to that standard each day but many people do and many people are successful at it.
I just don't understand why women spend so much time and energy comparing themselves to each other. It surely is not a healthy or productive way to spend our mental energies. And, when we get down on ourselves it surely is not a blessing to our family. My husband works so hard for our family - he should come home to a cheerful and appreciative wife each day. He deserves it! But, when I fail him in that I don't beat myself up over it. That's all - these are choices we have as individuals.
Well, not everyone is like you and she preys upon those women.
I think part of the "feeling badly about themselves" is what Candy says. She doesn't get angry because that would be stupid. Her kids are so well disciplined because of her Christian parenting and children who don't mind or are misbehaving are sings of ungodly parenting. Then if someone points out that she is being rather uncharitable *poof* the post or comment is gone so it is impossible to see how destructive she can be just by reading what is there at the moment.
I think it is more than reasonable to show how a person can do all those things if they are dedicated to that - but most of us get distracted and don't.
IF you believe that she really does all those things. I'm really starting to doubt it. I honestly don't feel that a person can do all that claims to do in a day, every, and still slap a smile on her face. I don't care if she does time 100 wpm, I don't believe that she can spend so much time blogging and commenting and still do all that she claims.
And I DO feel that she actively tries to make people feel guilty and/or like less of a mom/wife/person. She has said that if you don't have time to do all that she "does", it's simply b/c you're lazy and not trying hard enough. Yes, you, too, could bake 13 loaves of bread, make magic tea and yogurt, keep your trailer spotless, work out 90 minutes, homeschool your kids, AND be your hubby's beck and call girl--as long as you're willing to get up at 4, stay up until midnight, and keep a smile on your face through it all.
You may be partially right, though, on the guilt issue. I know that it's a problem of MINE when I feel like crap when I compare myself to other women, whether I'm comparing myself physically or as a person in general. Right or wrong, like it or not, I think this is something most women do without thinking about. However, I truly think that Candy plays on that. She wants other women to see all that she "does" and feel inept as a result, so that she can feel better about herself. She loves the praise of "how do you do it all?" She loves answering the questions smugly, saying only, "You just need to buy my HMB book, read the KJV, and TRY!"
So, yes, it is my problem that I feel guilt. But I feel that Candy knows this is a common trait in women and makes an effort to play upon it.
well said, amanda. i know i don't believe she does half of the things she claims. she is updating comments and posting too much to bake bread, make yogurt, buttermilk, homeschool, on and on. she is trying to make herself feel better by making other women think she is a super wife and mom.
Look at her morning routine:
Morning Routine
Breakfast and family devotional
Kids and I brush teeth
Family Bible study
Homeschool around the table
Exercise (older children work on homeschool worksheets; younger children nap or have structured free time)
Lunch and family read aloud time
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She is homeschooling three children in the classical mode. Most classical homeschoolers put in about 5 hours a day and she claims to exercise as much as an hour and a half. She would have to be getting up at 3am to do that all before lunch.
Amanda,
I do agree that Candy enjoys the attention she gets, as would most of us. She is perhaps boastful about all she can do in a day. That is her character flaw, try not to feel badly about it :) And, yes, women do have the miserable habit of comparing ourselves to each other far too often. I don't doubt her ability to stick to her basic schedule because I could make a timeline argument for how it can be done - not that I care to do that but it is quite easily proven. We make our own bread much of the time - it is 5-10 min. prep, and then it rises, then 5 min. attention, rising again, then baking. In the time I make a few loaves of bread I could clean my bathrooms, do the dishes, take a shower and get dressed. I'm not defending Candy but just defending the ease with which someone who is focused could easily do all she does with time to spare. If Candy wants to defend herself, she should. I'm not doing that - I'm just saying that all the gripping in the world doesn't change the fact that a woman can do this if she focuses on it. Many women do work through their day in this manner. Candy does lack a kind and/or gentle spirit in the way she responds to her readers. I understand why people are turned off by her, I really do, but to use "She can't do all that..." as the basis isn't right - even if you can find 100 other people who also agree it is impossible. If you can do it for one day, then you CAN do it each day. I personally choose not to because I don't have that intense focus but that does not mean it can not be done.
My neighbor is a classical homeschooling mother of 2 - she spends less than 2 hours on the formal aspect of her schooling a day. She has intelligent and delightful children who are far ahead of their peers. Most homeschoolers I know don't spend anywhere near 5 hours a day on formal schooling.
Her smugness is probably what bothers me the most, after the lying.
Just for the sake of argument...
*Wake up: 6am
*Brush teeth, get dressed, make the bed - 6:00-6:15
*Make coffee, start breakfast cooking, check email - 6:15-7:00
*Wake kids, get them dressed and eat breakfast - 7:00-7:30
*Family Bible study - 7:45-8:00
*Everyone clean bedrooms, mom starts a load of laundry, mom does dishes, take out trash, etc... - 8:00-9:00
*Check email, sweep floors, basic housework or bake bread 9:00 - 10:00
*Homeschool around the table - 10:00-11:30
*Kids play (color, toys, whatever...) while mom makes lunch - 11:30-12:30
*Lunchtime and clean up - 12:30-1:00
*Kids play, mom reads or blogs or talks on the phone - or even watches tv - 1:00-2:30
*Exercise (older children work on homeschool worksheets; younger children nap or have structured free time) - 2:30-4:00
*Free time - mom showers,blogs, kids play and or watch tv - 4:00-5:30
*Time to get dinner ready (one hour, unless mom threw dinner in the crockpot, or got it going during lunch making (something I often do)
5:30-6:30
*Dinner and Family Time (games, reading, devotions) 6:30-8:00
*Kitchen clean up, start brewing some Kombucha - 8:00-8:30
*Kids bath time (I can do 4 kids in 20 min) and off to bed 8:30-9:00
*Internet or whatever... 9:00 - 12pm
Still, I've whipped this up without cross checking it to her schedule... just an idea here. Now, I have to go and check my kids math work - he's done now.
All that said, I have no argument at all for smugness :)
Again, I can type all that out too, but that doesn't mean I did it.
M&M&M I think you are just more willing to suspend disbelief than I am. Look at what she claims is her curriculum. She is teaching four kids. I am not buying it. Two hours at 9 and 11 I will buy, not 5 and 8 with two younger ones as well.
Life should not be the Bataan Death March of homemaking and no it isn't a matter of not being lazy, not focused, or not godly enough as Candy portrays.
i feel like MMM is trying to convince this readers of this blog that we are wrong about candy. there is nothing anyone can say that will make me believe that candy is who and what she claims to be. she says one thing one day and something completely different another. just like this whole church blog. not too long ago, whe was in the perfect church and now she is searching. that is just one of MANY things she changes on.
Concerned,
If you can see how XYZ can fit into a timeframe - why would you assume it doesn't get done? That is what I don't understand. Tell me that you despise her because she is rude to Catholics, or that you think she is dumb for wearing dresses, but why assume a person doesn't work hard each day when you can see how it would all fit in... with time to relax. That is more confusing to me than anything. I get that you think she lies because you think she spells too poorly to be a MENSA candidate but what does that have to do with her homemaking skills. If she was nicer would you still question the fact that she did what she said she does? I could give you lists of women who are busy in their home each day. It is not unreasonable to assume she does this stuff.
MMM - everything has been said in this blog as to why i think she is full of crap, but please...lets revisit it for you to go on and on about how wonderful she is in response.
She lies - MENSA, IT, quit modeling because it bored her, her husband was inducted into the IHOF.
Her schedule - up until she got wind of this blog, her comments were updated constantly...like every few minutes if you spent just one hour paying attention. even on sunday mornings while church was going on.
Her bashing of Catholics - i have stated numerous times on this site and Candyland about my disdain for her Catholic bashing.
Her overall holier than thou attitude.
Also, the way lets her children suffer for her over grown child name Erik.
You believe what you want and I believe what I want. You will turn anything anyone else says on here into a reason why Candy is doing what she does and I don't buy into any of it.
"Concerned",
Really, do you have to act like such an asshole? Seriously, you are just as critical as Candy. I have yet to say in any way shape or form that she is "wonderful". I've yet to say anything like that here or anywhere... in fact, I've said plenty of things about Candy that are less than flattering - if you'd bother to go back and read my posts throughout this blog. You look ignorant when you make statements such as the ones you did in response to my last comment.
This wasn't about MENSA, IT, MODELING, IHOF, or her attitude towards Catholics... you are jumping to all these other issues when I was asking about ONE issue. Clearly you think it is impossible that any woman could be such a good homemaker that she could keep herself busy around her home all day as to fulfill a reasonable and logical schedule.
This wasn't about Candy for me - it was about people saying there is NO WAY anyone could do all of this and I KNOW that that statement is inaccurate. I know it is because when I'm at my best it is amazing the amount of work I can do in a day, and still have time to play with the kids and be available to my husband.
Further, I haven't tried to turn anything anyone says into a reason why Candy does anything - I was speaking specifically to the possibility that women are capable of so much and they shouldn't allow themselves to feel badly by comparing themselves to each other.
MMM- asshole? How Christian of you!
I gave all the examples because you stated the following:
"Tell me that you despise her because she is rude to Catholics, or that you think she is dumb for wearing dresses, but why assume a person doesn't work hard each day when you can see how it would all fit in..."
So, I told you why I disliked her and you get her apron in a wad. Again, I will never believe a woman who claims to do all the things she claims to do in a day, but spends as much time as she does on the computer. My opinion.
Sincerely,
Asshole
MMM, I will concede that it is possible to do all that she claims to do in a day. Here is where I diverge in opinion:
While I believe that there are many women who DO do all that she claims, I don't believe SHE does it. I may also concede that she did it once, or does it occassionally, but I do not believ that SHE does ALL that she claims, EVERY day.
First, as I have said, and as you have said, everyone has "off" days. For her to claim that she doesn't b/c she has the "joy of the Lord" in her heart is deceitful.
Second, I feel that given the number of other lies and untruths that we/others have found on her blog, it is not unreasonable to assume that she is lying about this, as well.
Amanda - I agree that some women are capable of doing all that in a day, but there isn't much "fluff" off time if you plan on doing all that and not being up round the clock. Computer time is "fluff" off time in my opinion. Candy has way too much "fluff" off time to be June Cleaver.
Amanda,
I can see your point and from where you are coming from (a reasonable and mature argument) I'd give you that. I don't know what Candy does or doesn't do in a day and I don't really care. She probably does have days where she doesn't accomplish much - as do we all. I was commenting on the ability of women in general. I also know that it is hard to not compare yourself to other women but DO TRY not to do that! It isn't good for our spirits :) I've been to your blog and it looks like you do a fine job just being the person that God made you to be :) I'd suspect your family agrees!
And, though I might not do all the things on my schedule today - I've done a great deal while still finding time to get online. It is called multi-tasking and women are great at it. No worries, Concerned, my apron is not in a bunch. I'm just a Christian woman, who just happens to think you are probably an asshole. I could be wrong - I've been wrong before but perhaps I'm right on. We'll have to agree to disagree and I'll not direct comments to you in the future.
MMM
Fantastic! I have my thoughts on you and I chose not to share them. I see you are showing people the true Christian spirit. It is no wonder why so many people choose not to be religious when they see people act one way, but are shouting they are Christian on the roof tops.
P.S. Next time, do not ask someone to tell you something if you don't want to read the answer.
WWJD? Not call someone an asshole!
MMM- I can see what you mean about fitting all those things in a schedule because I have had times where I adhere closely to my schedule and I get tons of stuff done, but I shamefully admit that I am barking at my poor kids the whole time because I can completely overwhelm myself with a big list in attempts to be Miss Perfect. (And I don't even maintain a blog.) One time I engaged Candy in a very long back-and-forth conversation about Catholicism, and she updated her comments for HOURS so that her readers could slam me over and over again. I doubt she got her list completed that day- in fact, I don't even know how she fed her family because this went on from late afternoon through the dinner hour. I know *I* was completely screwed when it came to accomplishing what I wanted to do that day. I'm sure she was too, but do you think she'd ever admit it?
I think it's just comments from her to her readers that get under people's skin, like "Exercise at midnight if you have to." That is just so extreme, and it makes people feel like losers when they can't meet those expectations because they've come to admire her so much (obviously not the people posting here, but her daily readers just gush over how perfect they think she is in her comment boxes). And the exercise thing is just one piddly example.
You used a naughty word in anger (which I do quite often- not proud of it, but I am human, so I don't hold it against you and won't call you unChristian for it), so think of what kind of names we'd like to call Candy when she tells us Catholics that we are going to hell and that we don't even know our own religion? You seem like a really nice gal- I just don't get why you stick with Candy, and BTW, I've looked at your blog, and your house looks fantastic- very clean, cheery and homey. Please don't tell me that Candy keeps a better home than you just because her list says she'd done this or that. You shouldn't even be comparing yourself to her in the first place. Really, no one should. The last person I want to be like is Candy. Sorry if that sounds mean, but it's true.
Hey Angie,
I totally get your point! I remember that midnight comment, it was laughable.
Oh, and you are gracious to be sure :) Yes, that was a quick reaction that though I KNEW it wasn't right, and I still do, the shoe fit.
I can understand, and it is why I said several days ago, that I think this blog does serve a purpose. I'd be ticked too if someone offended me as she has so many of you. I probably turn it off better than some people but I do understand. You are justified in how you feel. As for my house, it's home. I don't compare myself to Candy but it isn't always as tidy as it was in my pictures. I haven't made my bed in two days.
Really though, this isn't an issue of me sticking with Candy. She's a big girl - she can defend herself. I wasn't speaking up for her as much as for the possibility that we women are capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for :)
Perhaps Candy has an issue with compulsive lying. Not saying that she is but as mentioned by several others, she may use this supermother/wife image as a way of making herself feel better. It would appear she has some personal insecurities and the praises of others help her to feel good about who she is.
I have a friend who used to brag about how she gets up at 4am to get her housework done. She had a strict routine she would follow and made sure everyone knew how amazing and organised she was as a wife and mother. She made out her sex life with her husband was unbelievable and she was quite judgemental about other people's situations.
At the time she only had one child and was pregnant with her second and I had 2 little ones and constantly felt I couldn't keep up to her high standards. My husband didn't believe half the things she came out with but I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I realised she was exaggerating when I visited her home because although it was tidy on the surface (and I'm not nitpicking here just making observations due to her constant bragging), it wasn't really clean. I noticed things, which I wont go into, were just not up to the standard she purported them to be.
As I got closer to her and she had her second child, she began to admit to struggling in certain areas and not keeping the house to such a high standard. She confided about certain marital issues and overall I think she began to feel more comfortable that I wouldn't judge her. It makes for a better and more honest friendship. I certainly don't see her as any less of a person, in fact I see her as more because although she has major difficulties at times (as do we all), she overcomes them and is a great mother and wife
Also, I may be way off base here but I'm inclined to believe Candy does get quite down about things but lives under the mistaken belief that a christian is not supposed to ever feel unhappy or complain. I'm sure synchroswimr's observation is at least partially correct, in that she keeps busy to prevent herself from those negative feelings. I would go so far as to suggest that her children are the ones who get to see her frustration and those things feelings are projected onto them when they simply behave as children do.
As I said, this is all just speculation but I really don't believe she can keep a smile pasted on her face in all that she's going through and at all times. Life is just not like that and even Jesus wept.
I also think women compare themselves to her because she comes off as quite judgemental and tells everyone they can and should be doing what she does. There is no room to move as her way is the right way regardless of your situation. If your child has behavioural, physical or mental issues etc, that's just tough, suck it up and keep them with you/homeschool/ discipline her way or whatever. It's just very narrow minded to suggest there is only one way to do things for everybody. Instead she should just talk about what works for her without waving the finger of guilt at people to only do it her way.
I don't think she can defend herself. That's why she simply does not allow dissenting opinions.
Just for the record, if I exercise at night, I can't sleep for hours. It really revs me up.
Dora,
Great post.
Milehimama,
I never exercise at night - I have NO energy once the kids are in bed... it's hard enough just to be wifely sometimes.
You ladies have some very good points.
I don't believe anyone is peeved that she doesn't have a bad day. We all know she has bad days. We all know that everyone has bad days. What people get peeved about is her insistence on thinking that we buy that crap. I think that is the part that is unnerving about the whole here is my schedule be like me. We all know the schedule is impossible at least without meth or legal speed.
Can I clear up a few things I KNOW FOR CERTAIN? Candy met Erik when she was 17 years old and he was 32 years old. Since I've known him since he was a child, I've also known her the whole time. She never modeled ONCE since I've known her. I have heard rumors that she "modeled" when she was 14 years old, but I think the TRUTH is that she went to something like the Barbizon(sp.?) school of modeling in Denver, which ANYONE can get in to if they pay the enrollment fee. She may have done a Sears ad or other minimal print work...I can't say for sure either way...but no commercials or anything else.
Also, I don't know what this IT crap is. She never went to any school for tech training. Before she had kids, she was working for a computer help call center to help people over the phone. It was Erik though who basically taught her everything about computers, because he is very knowledgable in that area. Remember...she never finished high school, and (very sarcastic here) HOME SCHOOLED HERSELF through college. There has been no formal education or training since 11th grade.
The lack of education explains her poor grammar and sentence structure. I ponder if she has a GED.
"I don't believe anyone is peeved that she doesn't have a bad day. We all know she has bad days. We all know that everyone has bad days. What people get peeved about is her insistence on thinking that we buy that crap."
CIC hit the nail on the head.
"She never modeled ONCE since I've known her. I have heard rumors that she "modeled" when she was 14 years old, but I think the TRUTH is that she went to something like the Barbizon(sp.?) school of modeling in Denver, which ANYONE can get in to if they pay the enrollment fee."
Mr - I wondered about that.
Anyway, the more I read, the more I think we're dealing with a pathological liar here.
Regarding the homeschooling through college - did she get a degree online? There are some viable online colleges (University of Phoenix, for example) so I'm just wondering.
Quote: "The lack of education explains her poor grammar and sentence structure. I ponder if she has a GED."
That's not necessarily true either. If memory serves me correctly, grammar is hit hardest in one's Freshman year in high school. After that it is reviewed for a few weeks in 10th -12th grades, but that is it. Most of the focus seems to be in literature.
I'll also share that I graduated from high school 22 years ago, so perhaps things are different now?
My point is she had the grammar while attending high school (or should have).
I remember she has said she has a degree in Divinity, Business, and that IT certification. So, in the last 12 years: she has had 4 babies, (plus the miscarriage) worked out of her home doing that internet marketing scam, 2 degrees, moved, lived in a RV, maintain her schedule, do all the cooking, blog at least 2 hours a day. Her claims of this have been going on since 2005. So in 8 years--she accomplished this. I have an undergraduate degree (4 years) and a double masters(2) and it took me 7 years to complete full time. Clearly, she did not do well in English 101 or Business writing. I am sure if she did take the e-college courses, she would have mentioned what a wonderful way it is to get a college degree.
Hey nightowl,
Nope, no online degree through an accredited college...or any college. She is just outright lying on this one. Unless she feels reading the KJV over and over is the same thing as a home school college curriculum.
I'm surprised anyone reading her blog would expect her "books" to be better written. It is obvious she does not care enough about clear, concise communication to present herself better.
The poor syntax, grammar, and spelling on her site, this one, and many others, dismay me regularly, but most people recognize that if they cannot communicate clearly, they would be of no use teaching. It is possible she is capable of better composition than her supposedly hastily written entries reveal, but according to upstream comments her books show that she either is not capable or does not make the effort. I suspect the former. How does a child develop respect for the written and spoken word when his teacher disrespects it? How does a teacher guide a child to structure his thoughts, develop his argument, use logic, and compose a piece, and how does she evaluate it, when she is self-evidently incapable and dismissive of these skills?
She claims she home-schooled herself through high school; this means, at best, that she has a GED. She claims she home-schooled herself through college; this does not mean she has diploma from the University of Phoenix, let alone a baccalaureate from an accredited institution. Others have pointed out that “graduated from modeling school” means nothing because anyone can attend who can pay; her “college” is the same thing. She bought a diploma (whether or not she read anything) from any of a number of on-line, at-home bible schools. Not seminary, not a theology major, but a who-knows-what-to-call-it, accepting all paying comers, light on criticism and evaluation and heavy on branding.
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I would not take claim that she reads and moderates her comments at all hours of the day, including churchtime, just because of their timestamps. I do not know for certain, but it is possible a comment retains the timestamp of its submission no matter when she accepted it.
The ITU certification: This is a certification like ISO 9000 that is handed out to major corporations. It is very hard to find and took a couple of hours of research on the internet to figure out what it is. I think she was trying to say she is IT certified, but being IT certified you would know the difference. ITU has been handed out to two large multinational corporations based upon their software and their software support. It is basically a certification that requires a company to follow rigorous guidelines and process, but comes with getting major governmental contracts. THis is just a flat out lie for Candy no ifs, buts, or KJVs.
The ITU certification: This is a certification like ISO 9000 that is handed out to major corporations. It is very hard to find and took a couple of hours of research on the internet to figure out what it is. I think she was trying to say she is IT certified, but being IT certified you would know the difference. ITU has been handed out to two large multinational corporations based upon their software and their software support. It is basically a certification that requires a company to follow rigorous guidelines and process, but comes with getting major governmental contracts. THis is just a flat out lie for Candy no ifs, buts, or KJVs.
Mr.
I believe she thinks that reading the KJV is sufficient for education, as do others. I think everyone should learn the bible, but lets not forget math, science, history and english. Some parents that homeschool are spending a lot more time reading the bible than the basics I mentioned above. I don't think when you go on a job interview as an adult they will accept your qualifications as knowing the KJV front to back.
I will tell you what would blow them away; if we started a help Candy fund. We could take donations for food to help the kids, etc. Just imagine the look on her face when she gets a check from Candy is a liar and false prophet.
We should start a fund of cash so when the children reach of age to leave, they have something to sprint out of there with.
If I thought there were any chance the kids would benefit from such a fund, I'd donate in a heartbeat. But more than likely, they'd take it as a sign from God that Erik is on the right track and should continue his "work". I'm sure he'd blow it all on ebay.
Now if we could somehow set up a trust for those kids....
Wow! This was a busy comment thread over the last few days. MMM, you have a good point about women comparing themselves to other women.
I have one question about the discussion of Candy's education: Does Erik read her blog? If he does, I wonder what he thinks about it (if she is indeed lying, which it seems to me she is). I think my husband would have a major issue with me lying about things I wrote on a blog that is supposed to be a truthful representation of my life and my beliefs.
I don't think Erik is playing with a full deck himself.
Erik reads Candy's blog on a regular basis, and is aware of everything she writes. He even will "guest" write on certain topics. Erik and Candy can not state the plain facts about their lives, work, education, etc. because that would be admitting not only to themselves, but to all readers, that they are simply full of crap. The fantasyland created on the blog prevents them from accepting their true situation...and taking responsibility for it. If people repeat lies over and over, either outloud or in their mind, they eventually believe them. Remember...Erik can get a job that adequately supports his family, but CHOOSES not to. I'm sure he is 100% behind her lies because he thinks it paints them in a sympathetic light, prompting readers to help support his laziness by either buying Candy's e-books, or actually sending money to their paypal account when they request donations.
Also, the children would NEVER see any money that was meant for them through a fund. It would be spent on shopping sprees at Walmart, ebay, or bible bookstores.
I did wonder at that post that said she collected bibles and listed all of the many bibles she had.
Now, I have a lot of bibles, too (yet I find myself using BibleGateway more often than not) but I didn't set about collecting them!
I use one regularly and the rest sit on a shelf and "look purty". And they were all given to me/found (we got our couch from a Baptist church, and were up 3 KJV's when we looked under the cushions)
I have no doubt that the money would not go to the kids, and really what are these kids going to be like after eighteen years of indoctrination? That is the sad part. Erik does sound like a piece o'. I am just so dumbfounded by the fact that I was wrong for not being more right; meaning that I was right about her, but wrong by not knowing how much more absurd their lies were. Wow, and if someone reading her blog was able to truly know these facts, I have to think they would leave in a heartbeat, and probably happier. The hits on her comments recently have been pretty low. But I would like to say I think she is starting to rev up. Hinting at the prophecy, and know out and out justifying why she is not crazy about the prophecy, we are getting ready to see some weirdness. I can feel it. She seems to run in waves like that.
"Hinting at the prophecy, and know out and out justifying why she is not crazy about the prophecy, we are getting ready to see some weirdness."
Since Ginger has left CIACAIG it is now not know. We all do it occasionally. ;)
I am dyslexic
oh and you are banned for life.
So am I. One reason why I normally avoid pointing out anyone else's grammar or spelling issues. I also have a peculiar sense of humor that overcomes my wisdom at times.
It's ok I am Catholic I am used to being banned from Candy related sites. LOL
Nice to see CIC has a normal sense of humor and can take a little razzing. I don't get people like Candy. Oh well, apparently none of us who visit this website do.
Where did all the Candy advocates go anyway?
They are stuck working on getting their Meeze "just rigt"
some of the people that come here are candy advocates, but try hard not to be.
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