Saturday, June 28, 2008

Ladies and Gentlemen The Zealots have left the building!!

Matthew 7:15-1615Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.
Proverbs 31:6Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.

Wow, it is sounding like Candy's intolerant readers are turning on her. Ladies and Gentlemen Candy has asked the zealots to leave the building. Strange, strange, strange. There are actually people out there more judgemental than Candy? Look out, we may have to go and find them as well. Now that the shoe is on the other foot, what sayeth Candy:

"Well, I've shaken some dirt from this broom... There have been some "loyal readers" highly offended that I have NON-ALCOHOLIC beer in my fridge, and some have been highly offended that I like worship songs, such as "Holy is Your Name." Well, if anyone has a problem with that, then let me show you to the door... God forbid you should keep reading here, and get yourself angry. :-?
Meanwhile, I was so blessed to read of so many other ladies who keep their children with them in church service. It sometimes seems like I'm the only one. It gets "lonely," when I don't know other people who believe as I do, about worshiping the Lord ToGeThEr, as a family, and not shipping the kids off to do who knows what... I'll write an article about it soon, as it is something dear to my heart.
Next... Yes, I know Foursquare was founded by a woman - so? I don't see the big deal. Their teachings are solid, and I won't attend any churches with a woman preacher. I don't agree with everything with Foursquare, just as I don't agree with everything IFB. There is probably no church out there that I agree with everything on.
I don't know if I'll leave IFB for Foursquare, or something else, or if I'll stay where I'm put. I'm praying about it, and planning on visited a few churches - that's it.
Next, there have been several requests about scriptures in regards to the age of accountability, and that all babies go to heaven. Yes, there are several verses on that... I added that topic to my "blog about" list, and will write an article on that soon, as well. Candy Homepage 06.27.08 - 6:06 pm # "
Now it is non alcoholic beer, and then she edited her post to clarify. I think she has a couple of real beers, but just doesn't like being on the other side of the ridicule fence. She thought oh no I am not the zealot anymore, I need to change that. It is funny that the Candy heads make the same arguments we do to Candy about the people complaining about her alcoholism, but they don't see the irony in the fact that they have spent the last years arguing against those arguments. Wow talk about head in the sand.

40 comments:

Anonymous said...

What saddened me about that post was how odd it was that in her church children would be shipped off to do who knows what. In my church, I know what they are lovingly taken into their classroom to do by women who love children. I am always welcome to come in, see what's happening and the teachers are held accountable for their actions with the children. They are never alone with them and they take excellent care of children.

BUT, to hear how bad we are for "shipping" our kids off is so judgemental and wrong. There's no where in the Bible where it commands me to have my children with me in the pew. And, as I said on her comment area, if I had to keep my two children with me in the pew, I would never, ever get to go to church and would have to stay home every week due to having two children with special needs. In 5 months I have been able to attend 3 hours of church total. That's 3 one hour worship times in 5 months due to my youngest child's new special needs. God gave me these children and I feel that's why He led us to a church with an incredible nursery full of women that love what they do. They are all volunteers, they don't have to do it, they can back out anytime and I know them outside of church. They are dear friends to me and people that I know their families, lives and so on. I know some of their parents. I know their children. We do other things outside of church long before we ever came to that church. So I know what I am "shipping" my kids off to. I am "shipping" them off to loving Christian women who teach them God's word every week. They are cared for so my husband and I can have one hour every once in a while to delve deeply into God's word with fellow Christians. To try and insinuate that your personal opinion on this is the only way and it's wrong to do it another way is just arrogant and sinful in and of itself. Walk a mile people, walk a mile. Here are my shoes. Have them. I promise you would give them back in an hour.

We all have our own loads to bear with Christ as our head. So don't assume you know the worries of another family and what they need. It just saddens me that this judgment has fallen on a family like mine because we aren't perfect, with perfect children that sit quietly, hands folded, listening to the pastor. God knew our children in the womb. He knew they would be like this. He knew they would not be like normal children. He led us to a church that would help us in our spiritual journey instead of condmening us.

candyisascrazyasitgets has moved to http://www.candyisaliar.blogspot.com/ said...

Well bless you and your family. But you do know that even the "perfect children" don't sit quietly, well behaved, and with their hand folded either, right? That is what is so funny about her comments. A church should be a family, a family that supports, helps, guides, and loves. You should be able to trust your children under the supervision of the church. That is the petty judgmental stuff that she says that drives me nuts. Isn't it better to have your children in a learning environment that is conducive to them? I mean the sermons that are for adults are not captivating to children. This is why kids don't start off with algebra, but begin with simple addition. Sunday school provides an environment that is socially good for a child being raised a Christian because they are surrounded by other Christian children. Sunday school provides a curriculum that is adapted to children. Sunday school provides a safe opportunity for the parents to be comfortable knowing their children are under the watchful eye of the church, and thus allows for the parents to have the opportunity to sit, without fear, and learn more about Christ. It is very difficult to be in a learning environment and pay attention when you are having to concentrate on "stop touching me."
It is logic without sanity, which makes it completely illogical to condemn Sunday school. Silly, judgmental, and hurtful to call someone a bad parent.

julie said...

I live in Bethany, OK and do see the Brauer family around town. Numerous time I have seen them at the Bethany Walmart. Candy IS ALWAYS in a dress and the children are always with her but very well behaved. When I first saw her, I really thought she was of the Morman religion. I have seen her give the children "the look" when they whine etc. Her hair is awful and does need to be dealt with. She does live in the trailer park and I am not sure if it is advertised as Christian. This is the bible belt so everybody is Christian. They are very poor and I had to laugh about the B'que where the whole family ate for $14.00. The resturant is not a fancy place as she described. He is an electronic tech and is not well like by his peers because of his pompus know-it-all attitude. I cannot reveal the company and this is all I can say. The kids do look like rag-a-muffins but then so does Candy. Candy is friendly in a weird way.I have had conversations with her (a hobby)and she always looks at me as if I have 3 heads--my children were also in Catholic school uniforms. When I see her again, I will take note of her grocery cart. LOL. I have been following on her blog for about a year and then found this site last evening. I installed the IP blocker.(which changes IP addresses) when I found her site. She is strange--it is weird. I did read "Mr" account and he is accurate regarding Erik. Erik is the "town ass." and known as off the wall.

Unknown said...

Candy doen't want her children out of her sight because she realizes that if they get a glimpse of normality, they'll realize how screwed up their lives really are. They might see normal parents, or talk to other children and find out not evryone has to do their own laundry by age 4. Of course she tries to cover up this real fear of hers by saying she is such a loving mother that she always wants them with her and, she just wants to keep the kids away from unruly children that might teach her kids bad behaviors.

Milehimama @ Mama Says said...

I keep my kids with me at Mass... then again, the Catholic worship service and an Evangelical one are completely different. What the Evangelicals call worship, we call "homily".

candyisascrazyasitgets has moved to http://www.candyisaliar.blogspot.com/ said...

Thank you Julie. That is truly wonderful. We now have eyes and ears on the ground. It is not hard to imagine that Erik is the town "ass." His political stances would make even Hannity blush.

julie said...

I was "smug" for this reason bus since it is out. Erik does get paid "under the table" I am familiar with who he works for. He is always bragging about some invention and/or working. Ethically, it bothers people but Erik is not getting ahead. We laugh about the Brauers--especially when she got the spider bite. BTW, St. Charles Catholic church has a free clinic. Take note Candy if you are reading this.


Mr. said...
Erik Brauer WAS NEVER INDUCTED in the Inventors Hall of Fame, nor ever contacted by them. I doubt they even know who he is because he's never had a patented invention. He did invent some type of transmission improvement process, but I really believe that he didn't get a patent for it. After all that would require he give information like his SSN and then they might trace the fact that he does not pay taxes and a whole can of worms would open up. He never does anything that requires him to give a SSN because he doesn't want the government tracking him. He gets paid "under the table". Also, his kids were born at home so they wouldn't have to get SSN's. I don't know how they are supposed to get along later in life...like get a driver's license or employment without a SSN...but Erik only cares about his selfish warped viewpoints and keeping "off the government radar", so too bad for the kids I guess. Anyway, the whole Inventors Hall of Fame claim is a COMPLETE FABRICATION. In fact I laughed so hard the first time I read that statement that I was literally crying.

June 28, 2008 6:39 AM

Unknown said...

Julie,

Though I have not been around Erik since he's moved to Bethany, the fact that he is not well liked by co-workers and considered the "town ass" just reinforces my belief that nothing has changed. In fact, it seems he and Candy get more bizarre with each passing year. It's as if they feed each others madness. The children always look like rag-a-muffins because Erik's mother passed away ( Feb. 2007), and she always bought all their clothes. Now Candy has to shop at thrift stores, so their clothes have already been worn...even their shoes! I am sure used shoes are not good for the development of young feet, but you can't afford good footwear when you have crap to buy on ebay.
And , of course the kids straighten right up if they whine and she gives them "the look". They don't want to have to go home and select their own switch with which to be beaten...something that she has blogged about in the past regarding how she disciplines them. Anyway, IMHO your general assessment of her and Erik is "spot on".

Carolyn said...

Mr. is so right on! Candy doesn't want her kids away from her because she doesn't want them to see a normal life. She has a total lack of confidence in her parenting skills. My husband and I raised our 3 children to participate in life and become a contributing member to society. Guess what? They're grown and they do. I could brag all day long about my kids, but I'm not here to make other parents feel inferior. Considering the Brauer's tax stance maybe that's the problem... Erik and Candy don't want to contribute.

julie said...

Racheal is adorable with her curls. She is usually in a dress. The others in t-shirt/shorts. There is something "different" about the children and it is hard to describe. They don't engage. I have thought of hanging out at the park near the house but not in the best of area. My children would look at me if I had 3 heads.
I was at a dinner party six months a ago and the Brauer family came up. Somebody suggested that we sponsor them but majority said "no way" A lot is about Erik and the other is her blog is her Catholic agenda. We do feel for the children. At this age, I think they are still OKThe family is in my prayers, Catholic prayers.

candyisascrazyasitgets has moved to http://www.candyisaliar.blogspot.com/ said...

So Mr. what are your feelings about this blog? Curious to hear an opinion that knows the Brauers personally.

Working up to Zero said...

Didn't Candy blog about the church children's ministry person calling CPS or am I misremembering that. (I could be so don't take my word for that)

Nicole said...

I think she has good intentions with keeping her children but obviously she has never had a special needs child. My daughter CAN NOT sit through a service or she becomes over stimulated.

I am sure I am one of the zealots she is talking about. I questioned her on the alcohol thing and how the Hebrew words for fermented and unfermented wine were different. She did not post my comment or respond to it.

Honestly there are a lot of things about Candy's blog I like. It was her blog that motivated me to work on being a better wife and to have a more welcoming clean home when hubby got home.

Unknown said...

CAICAIG,

I was THRILLED when I found this blog. I have always been so worried that all the people who read Candy's blog would actually believe her!! So, I must apologize to ALL the readers of this blog, and to you in particular for not giving you nearly enough credit. I am SO GLAD you took time to create this forum for people to vent all their frustrations about her.

I read her blog, and 99% of the time think, "She is lying about___________(fill in the blank). If only I could tell all her readers the truth!" Well, now I actually feel better knowing that a lot of people can see through her, and that I can actually help clear up different things if I know the facts about something in particular.

I guess I've been so close to the situation for SO long that even I became desensitized to how outlandish she must seem to strangers. I know it might seem ridiculous, but I've felt so much "lighter" in my mind since I found you. THANK YOU!

aine said...

our family is his, no need to feel saddened, feel raised up, because there are other Christian women who have and do walk in your shoes. We will be praying for you and your family.

Amanda #1 said...

Julie and mr., I can't tell you how great it is to have an insider's view of what the Brauer family is really like. I look forward to future updates!

candyisascrazyasitgets has moved to http://www.candyisaliar.blogspot.com/ said...

Well I am glad to here that.

Milehimama @ Mama Says said...

Does anyone else read Pilgrim's Progress to their 4 yo's?

http://myblessedhome.blogspot.com/2006/04/keeping-it-together.html#article

'Cuz we've just barely worked our way up to Gentle Ben for our 4 yo. Just wondering if we are behind.

Although my boys enjoyed Moby Dick (abridged) and Gulliver's Travels (abridged) a lot.

wackojacko said...

Who just likes the taste of beer? YUCK! I can name other kinds of alcohol I like for the taste but not beer. That is a taste that you learn to like from drinking it for the alcohol.

sweepingthehome said...

Am I imagining things...or did our MENSA girl recently discover the spell check feature? Damnit, it's really not as much fun reading her "rediculous" posts when so many words are spelled correctly. :(

sweepingthehome said...

QUOTE: Didn't Candy blog about the church children's ministry person calling CPS or am I misremembering that. (I could be so don't take my word for that)

Yes she did. I remember that. It was a couple years ago, she had left her baby (one of the boys) in the nursery and one of the workers spotted a mark on his leg and called CPS. Of course Candy said it was absolutely nothing and everything was dropped. After that, she stopped taking the kids to Sunday school and church.

Google "raising godly tomatoes." She is all into this type of parenting. In fact, I believe she has a link on her site.

QUOTE: Honestly there are a lot of things about Candy's blog I like. It was her blog that motivated me to work on being a better wife and to have a more welcoming clean home when hubby got home.

I agree, if you want homemaking advice and tips, she's full of it. But you can find that same information from places like organizedhome.org, flylady.net, Kathy Peel's books, etc...or just look in the homemaking section of your local bookstore. ALL of Candy's advice just is an accumulation of the advice you read in thess books and websites. She didn't come up with any of it. Even Managers of Their Homes (MOTH) has some good stuff - (although I disagree w/a majority of their stuff, they're not as in your face like Candy is and I haven't seen any Catholic-bashing on their site).

sweepingthehome said...

Edit above: she stopped taking her kids to sunday school and the nursery, not church. Don't misquote me! :P

Signy Ragnvaldsdottir said...

NEWSFLASH: She says at the end of her dishwasher post that she has a special surprise announcement. Online Meez church or is she knocked up again? She says she loves the Duggars (they disgust me), so she might be going by their playbook.

sweepingthehome said...

Dishwasher post? That's a new one. Okkkaayyyy....getting some groovy ideas in my head....

An online meez church...that's hilarious. Wish I had come up with that idea.

Amanda #1 said...

Steph, my bets are on her being pregnant, too. In fact, I read the "surprise announcement tonight" and I came here next to post my guess, LOL. Should we start a pool?

Amanda #1 said...

Okay, I just read her comments: someone guessed it, and she SAYS she's not pregnant.

Nicole said...

I bet she has a new ebook.

Working up to Zero said...

Her new ebook
"How to save your Catholic friends"

sweepingthehome said...

OK now that I think about it, I bet it's those non-alcoholic beers that are causing all these weird behaviors.

Nicole said...

How do you go soul winning in a MEEZ room with group of women who are already almost all Christians?

Working up to Zero said...

I wonder if they will announce their great new online church?

Barb said...

Quote: How do you go soul winning in a MEEZ room with group of women who are already almost all Christians?

I was wondering the same thing.

another one said...

Oh, come on

Let's get accounts and find out!

Amanda #1 said...

I'm going in.

Amanda #1 said...

Okay, maybe I'm not. I've tried several times, and each time, it just loads up funny on my page and I can't do anything. Sad. I wanted them to try to win my heathen Catholic soul.

another one said...

May we call her Mephistopholes if she wins my soul? If she wins, don't I lose?

Anne-Marie said...

These "dance parties" crack me up. This is another example of Candy's inconsistency, hypocrisy, what ever you want to call it. She once posted that she disagreed with people dancing; she called it - and I'm quoting here - AIR FORNICATION!! I remember it well because it made me laugh out loud.

Any one else remember this? If I ever have time I'll go find the post [if it's still there, probably won't be].

So air fornication is wrong, but not when its virtual? Wonder if she applies the same standards to fornication in general.

candyisascrazyasitgets has moved to http://www.candyisaliar.blogspot.com/ said...

I wonder if you dance with your spouse does that make it Air Communal Union? That is just flat out strange. What is the point of going to an internet party? I still don't get it. Oh look out guys I am kind of drunk let the designated typist take over, give them the keys (get it). That announcement was very melodramatic

Stacy said...

I couldn't resist and quickly made a "meez," but the room was "full." *shrug* I was debating how to play it -- play along, or be who I really am (a childless atheist paleontology graduate student) and see what happened. Oh, well. I had better things to do last night. Like look at pictures of her dishwasher.... *roll eyes*

Anonymous said...

Damn. I spent the day/night yesterday with friends - real ones, not virtual ones - and missed the whole thing. I guess we can't all spend our Saturday nights at home playing on the computer.